4 reasons why new leaders aren't "part of the gang" anymore

In his post Enjoy Being Part of the Gang? Better Not Lead, Art Petty says "One of the rude awakenings for leaders promoted from within a team is the uncomfortable recognition that the easy camaraderie of the pre-promotion days immediately gives way to an awkward distancing of relationships."

Art writes that as a leader, you are no longer part of the gang. Here are some reasons why:

1. You now have a vote…in some cases a big vote in the fortunes of your colleagues. From simple decisions on assignments and projects to large decisions on promotions and even terminations, you now have influence over the lives of your colleagues.
2. Your new role has very explicit responsibilities and a degree of objectivity is required for successful execution of your role.
3. You must be comfortable supporting and coaching your team members, and that includes conducting tough discussions. While some might argue that this is what friends are for, let's face it, it is remarkably awkward to have to tell your friend that her behavior is impacting her career and the output of the team and here's how it needs to change.
4. You need to earn respect and grow your credibility as a leader. That's not happening at the bar after work or as you sit around and join the group commiseration over the bad habits of the boss. Hey, you're the boss!